Love more?

It seems lately I've heard myself saying to people more than usual 'I'd rather be alone than be around people who are... well basically toxic for me'. It's cool and well saying things though AAMAAARIGHT? And for sure I believe that even if alone, we'd attract in the right people as long as we were being good and true to ourselves and journey. Regardless of this.. put into practice... would this still be ok for me really?

I'm always true and honest. Really, there's no other way for me to be, even if I really wanted to. It's my genetic makeup. Because of this I try and share as much in an authentic way as possible. I've had some lush people share stories of how this has helped them, by being brutally honest and realising the shit times and the good times are all made soooo much better by ACCEPTING them for what they are, working on them etc. My dudes, that is a form of self love. Not just denying you have any shit going on. It's about being honest (not for everyone - if you don't wanna share that - it's cool!). Like HELL YEAH I feel shit sometimes! But I am a human, I accept my emotions! Hurting and being upset is growth, and emotions which help us release pain. In healthy ways. But I'm totally getting into other blog post matters now... chill out Bet

*basically- listen to what helps YOU personally. If it helps more to just see the only good parts, do that man!! Everyone is different. But don't be made to feel - by yourself or anyone else - that you don't have enough love for yourself or life or WHATEVER just because you experience all emotions. Because of my honesty, which to me was a biiiig turning point in my own self love, I've been told I don't have enough. Don't be scared to be honest too, it's mega cool if you can be open and honest about the hardest stuff. It means you're healing, and looking for ways to grow, or sharing with people who care for support! ALL GOOD MUCHOS LOVE TO YA*

So here we are. In my little theoretical life, of having no-one at all but myself as I would rather be alone than be surrounded by toxic people.
Would I seriously be ok with this?
Well you know the way the universe works hey! Little tests of my faith on this for my own growth heh! 
I've noticed, the way people treat me and my tolerance for this is changing lots *tolerant - letting em get on with it without rising - intolerant - not letting them put their shit onto me*
. I used to think it was VITAL to be surrounded by people at one point. As if it was a huge thing, one of the most important things to show someone's success. I'm absolutely positive a lot of you still think this, which is okay. It can really be made to seem this is super important! And we're human hey. Its literally in us, to avoid loneliness at any sacrifice.
And what is that sacrifice?
Is it our originality - to fit in more? Dignity? Respect? Worse... putting ourselves in danger, allowing ourselves to be manipulated, cheated, hurt? Sure I've afflicted all of these things on myself. It's crazy to me to look back on this and, although some things were out of my control, I seriously had control over most of these things. It is super hard to accept that too! Much easier to make other people out to be the bad guy. 
But are you letting yourself be treated this way?
Really. No shitting here. Think about it.
You have control.

And thats what this is about. 
Today I'm thinking about me. I'll do that however many days I feel like it too! Because we're the root.  When we love, we start to radiate it. We need to have so much love that we know it's okay to feel like we have hardly any love some days because we will always WORK AND GROW with more. Does that make sense? Think about it. Don't overthink. Read it three times in headstand. Whatever, I kinda get it and this is just my human experience. Heheh.

And this is the thing, yeah universe, I can kinda deal with this! Hell yeah I can deal with it! My approach to being strong around people toxic/ just not great for me has completely changed, and although I fucking LOVE being around people, I am totally cool with being alone if I have to. I think. lets see - if it comes to it. hahaha.
Its just trusting ourselves. If we can trust ourselves, we can trust our journey, and the little messages and reminders along the way, trust they will come; and trust our bigger life tings will happen too! LEARNING TO LOVE OUR JOURNEY. The more love I feel, the bigger my sights get. Things I hadn't thought of, or thought of in completely different ways change. I become more grateful for the bad things. I like to think of it in maybe a weird way - like a snake which is our life force and rainbow coloured. It bites and those are the shit times. But I'm grateful for what comes after and for the lesson learnt from it. I'll talk about that more some other time, and leave it making not much sense here for now.

Basically, are you gonna live in fear or love?

Open your arms to life, enjoy things and don't worry who thinks you're weird. You already are on the inside, might as well be on the outside too. 

It's been a beautiful few days, I think I've touched every single plant and branch above my head on my walks and keep doing happy sighs. I've had some odd looks but SMILE man and just spread that good shit. Your equally smily people will find you.

So yeah, get ready for a whole lot more love from me. Because that is the way I (and you too) can then give to the world and others too. Its the best kind of selfish ever and is always necessary.



Enjoy some cool photos by the wonderful Eddy Maynard, wearing awesome Dazey LA.