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05/09/2017

The Wandering Mermaids - brands I love

Kabaaaang pow pow! A super magical small business busting through here...

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UK based 'The Wandering Mermaids' owner, who runs a badass blog & is all about LOVE, SELF WORTH and mother****in rainbows has created some new little pieces which encapsulate all she stands for and embodies.

I was super stoked to receive this beautiful little choker made with happiness, a lush little kaleidoscope of daisies, fitting with everything I love and surround myself with. 

SO excited to see what lush things they achieve, keep updated on their social media to see the release of new things. SUPPORT SMALL BUSINESSES!

Also definitely check out her blog and little influential instagram posts for a little extra sugar sprinkle of happiness. Girl kickin ass!
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31/08/2017

A short(ish) self love story & Dazey LA

Hello beautiful beings.

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So, as some of you know, I seem to have helped some people through some hard times, some people I don't know too well at all. This makes me so so happy, a real accomplishment. This is the main driving force that brought me back to my blog, to post about what I feel is real. Not to fit into a specific criteria of what type of blogger I should be, what I have to post about, just what my thoughts are and what is genuine to me.

As amazing as that is, what most of you aren't aware of is the extent of my struggle with self love. Every word I advise, write in a card, type up on here, every single word is real. It's what I truly believe, and I just want it to be out there, incase some of it rings true with some people and helps. Or doesn't... and just makes you think - and create more of your own values.
I genuinely believe it all, but sometimes I have to work through more lessons and can't see that 'light' for myself. These are GOOD, believe it or not, as awful as they seem at the time, I come out learning more about myself, accepting more and finding new ways I can help and love myself.

From a young age, I struggled with fitting in properly. I would listen to the cruel words people would use about me, and attach them to myself. I thought that because I was different, it was my fault. The things I would be doing, were always the wrong things, because others weren't doing the same. 
I started to get a warped sense of self from this; my handmade clothes I spent hours making, weren't the same styles as the other girls, were too weird. My hair was too long, I couldn't do it up nice in the same way as the others. I was too tall, too flat-chested, I danced too differently and listened to bizarre world music. Even people I believed to be my friends would make fun of me in front of other 'cooler' people.
  
I did have some special people in my life and I'm thankful for that. But the real problem here wasn't the people who would speak about me, punch me or lie about me. It was the girl who was attaching these actions of others to herself and carrying that, turning it into a deep-rooted self hate. If we don't accept SELF RESPONSIBILITY, we can't change anything!
 I would try desperately in bursts to not be as different, not as unusual, and every time I would succeed, but this wouldn't make me happier. I was burying my true self with my own happiness, feeling there was no way to escape it as it was ME who I was running from.

This carried through with me, being my own worst enemy and not living my life wholly. As I grew through my teenage years, I started getting a lot more attention from men, model scouts, etc. I believed this would help me, and I allowed myself to be abused in many forms, and then believe it was my fault for not being good enough, and abuse myself too. I struggled with mental health, and didn't feel I could do anything about it. When I started to, I was shot down by a lot of people who believed I was an attention seeker, and by most of the others told they wouldn't be around me because I was mental.
I would hate myself when people in the modelling industry would speak about me, I'd put on too much weight, my hips were too big, I was too thin, my hair not the right colour. I would constantly seek out validation and punish myself if I didn't get it, thinking I'd been doing the wrong thing.

Slowly, something amazing happened. Not by anyone else's doing, by mine.
I started to ignore the negativity. Not playing into it. I started doing things that made me happy no matter what people thought, something I would do and then feel guilty about years before. 
I didn't care if someone didn't like my tattoos, people couldn't make me feel bad about my scars, I didn't care if I wasn't wearing enough makeup or dressed up. I was TRULY accepting myself and starting to love, something I didn't even realise was a problem before, instead of blaming myself, my situation and the people around me, I took CONTROL.
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Things are always going to happen in life, maybe more to some, maybe less, but things will still try and through you off course. Things that can't be helped, some things which I won't go into, and some self inflicted. Honestly I'm so grateful for it all, or I wouldn't have learnt that I am SO happy to be who I am. A girl who won't hide, bravely and fiercely my own weird person. And that's the thing. No matter what it is, it's how we are so STRONG that we can pick ourselves up and not stand for it. Believe you are worth something better. Allowing people to have their opinions of me and it NOT effecting me, because I have my own back at all times.

And that's the real way, the only way, we can then help each other. When we believe we are so worthy, we see the worth in the world, the beauty in little things and the little things we appreciate about ourselves.
Celebrate every unique quirk you have, attract the good adventures and people around you because we are here. It's all when you decide to make a change for yourself for the better.

Although I don't attract the same negativity around me now, I still struggle. It's not weak to admit it, it's being honest with yourself and allowing yourself to tackle the situation. Just earlier this week I was in a bad place, felt hopeless, even to the point of not wanting to write about my own self love incase I failed whilst doing it. After some time with myself, doing things that make me feel good, the help of seeing all the Dazey LA entries and I was there again with myself. Another lesson I'm grateful to have gone through, because to work on ourselves is so important. I could write so much more about my journey, and believe me I will for any of those of you who are gonna read this! (Or if not, just for me!)
Remember, whatever is going on, you are a truly beautiful, unique light in this world. 

Thank you to Dazey LA for all the amazing work they put out there- I truly believe in this company as an inspiration to so many. The owner, Dani, goes above and beyond as a business owner to make people feel good. I'm so excited to post about their amazing garms soon! 
It's truly something I believe in, not just as beautiful clothes, but as a movement.

Here you can watch the Dazey Self Love video featuring some incredible women. Love to you all.


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Dazey LA site
PHOTOS // Grime and Glamour
MUA // Lorna Vazraghi
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22/08/2017

Fairy Rodeo Set

REMINDER TO SELF & all you beauties...
LOVE YOUR BODY!


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No matter how it may fold, bend or appear 'unflattering' - to they way your brain's been wired. Be healthy, mind before body. You will shine.
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LINGERIE // Brighton Lace

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21/08/2017

Here's to invoking a feeling

...Instilling inspiration for the people hungry for something more, something real, and for something good in this beautiful planet.

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Here's to the people who can't be moved, us who will not be intimidated by hate and the people pursuing it, no matter what they physically or emotionally do. 

I thrive when people say I shouldn't do something, knowing who I am and believing in myself and my intuition, and knowing that I won't back down. When something isn't 'reserved' or is 'too strange', knowing that none of it matters when you believe you have the courage, which we all possess.

When men look back at me, outraged or confused that I haven't reacted to their crude belittling words, cruel power plays they inflict on anyone they feel will be upset and hurt, just to get one up.

When women stare and look down on me, genuinely disgusted or just projecting their own insecurities about being comfortable with themselves, for looking not done up enough, feet too dirty, too much glitter and not wearing everything exactly so- the same clothes they wear, then looked down on again- if anyone were to be wearing months later.
Not being upset, feeling rejected or outcast-  feeling full of love and respect for myself for being able to be completely happy no matter my looks, and ready to embrace anyone to feel the same.

How any of us could be conceived as less worthy, uglier, for having the confidence to wear no makeup, or a motherfucking rainbow of makeup on our faces, and not playing into this hate. Embracing our own selves. Because each and every last one of us is worth so much more, and have so much more to give and learn, than to play into these crazy self-restraints that people play into.

It genuinely makes me insaaaanely happy, every day, to see others spreading their self love and love for others, invoking something beautiful, instilling their own version of positive on the world in whichever outlet it may be.

So today, tell somebody something that makes you feel good, allow yourself to be vulnerable, do something that makes you SHINE or write something that makes you happy. 

Live your fucking life man, I can't wait to see what you make it.
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15/02/2017

FOREST GYPSY LOVE/ SAINT BOUTIQUE EDIT

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I find outfits that reflect me give me a little more soul-food for the day. A little more expression to show the little world a little bit of today's inner on the outside.
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Hallo beautiful people!
A little of a few outfit edits from one of my favourite stores- Saint Boutique. 
They're based on Baker Street in Middlesbrough, but worry not lovers; you can still order online.  You'll find a little treasure trove of absolute gems...

I aaaa-dore this outfit put together by Jessie from SB! COMPLETELY me and wonderful.
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SAINT BOUTIQUE
PHOTOS// JUNIOR AYUB
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14/02/2017

Valentine's 17 set

HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY LOVERS OF THE EARTH!
I love this day for the compassion shown everywhere- but remember things don't have to be limited to days. Love is waiting in the rain for someone to finish work, supporting friends through hard days, seeing beauty where others sometimes can't, in humans, animals, and the earth. 
Bring home a flower from your walk for a loved one for no reason. Make love a daily thang.

In celebration, here's a pretty pink set by Emily Cromarty, wearing Brighton Lace, & Holetti flower crown.
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Who the f**k wants to be told to wait anyway?!

Seriously though, why obey & listen to some rule someone else made up that 

DOESN'T HELP?


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I've been thinking a bit about these- inspiring??-but-ego-mad kinda people lately. Not the ones with the hearts in the right place, the ones who can see things coming in and out of 'fashion' and act accordingly- posting and doing what they think will make them more popular. Of course there are truly some people out there who DO have their heart in the right place, and are not sure how/ what to do to get this across and it can come across like the others as mentioned. The way I see it, we either come from a place of love or fear, all of our decisions, no matter how complex, can be rendered down to just this. LOVE or FEAR. This comes back to simply creating our own lives and moulding them into whatever we like, we have this power and this is it in it's simplest form, no matter how many other thoughts I have on top of this, this is the most basic and true form of how I feel about that.


This being said, there are always going to be people in every field and every aspect of life who aren't necessarily coming from a place of love, and as hard as it may be to see sometimes, really aren't 'helpful' to us at this time.

For example;  I once met a woman who called herself spiritual. She claimed that she was so open, yet as soon as mention of someone studying some scientific based degree, she immediately shut herself off from that person and even went so far to kinda look down on them, as if they could never be her level of 'spiritual' because they were doing something the opposite to what she was.

To me, not only do the two go hand in hand, but is the complete opposite meaning of being open and spiritual. This woman to me was one of my first encounters, or realisation of encounters with... I'm gonna call them 'false prophets'. People who would rather gather a big following of people trying to connect, or improve, or whatever- and instead of doing what's necessarily best for these people, turn it into a kind of 'worship'. I've been on the receiving end of this, and let me tell you, it can be easy to get sucked into it.

When ego is in play and takes charge, this can come out in any profession etc. She was no different at all to me to a person in a scientific field, dismissing people who believe in 'something else' too as the more idiotic side of the population.

These people though again, I am not attacking. Everyone learns things in this world in different ways- they obviously are learning in this particular way at this particular time. You just don't need to attract it in for yourself- or be on the receiving end of it if it's doing you no favours.
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Because I firmly believe, no matter who inspires you, you should inspire yourself the most. That may be because of something that person has said yes- but remember, you even brought that conversation INTO your life. It is ridiculously mind-blowing how much power a person has, and how little I see people believing in themselves. And the ones around you who have/ do inspire you, and are positive (you can be inspired by negative too! They can teach you how to act, how you wish to be treated!) - you can pick up and start to notice they are coming from a place of love. They may not think of themselves as a teacher, healer, whatever else it may be. Just remember that everyone is human, and you are so capable. 
They are no better, and you feeling better about yourself because of anything is down to you. Whether it be a conversation you've brought in and someone has said something that has stuck with you- that happened for a reason. Because you believed in your self worth enough to attract that in, and let that thought stick with you.

So with that, get inspired of course. Everyone offers something to us, we take from it in different ways. If you're coming from a place of love- everything will fall into place, whether that be that person leaves our lives or we take something great from it.
Just keep yourself, you are your own amazing person, and however inspired you feel by someone/ something, not everything they do and say is to be taken as gospel. Don't get sucked into being a sheep with them, no matter who they are!

Now, against the grain from what we're told... DON'T wait until Monday to start that health kick, DON'T twiddle your thumbs until next January to make some new 'resolutions', WHO THE F**K wants to impose these crazy self restrictions?!
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09/02/2017

Little February Details

Here are some of this month's little favourites!

Unexpectedly but rather delightfully, I found some little gems in none other than PRIMARK- they always have loads in their homeware range that have an amazing boho feel & am now also adoring their new-in accessories!

I love that winter's preeeetty much saying it's farewells but it's that mid-kinda season feel, playfully spring but still some cool tones! I picked up this super adorable little headband, choker set and scarf for all under £10. Also on lips- sweet lil find! Velvet matte lip crayon in shade #09 - for just £2 (whut) with a creamy, matte finish that isn't over drying - fast becoming a carry with essential.
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MY CURRENT FAVOURITE most beautiful lush lush lush bewitching book! 'The Magpie & the Wardrobe' will surely enchant any magic-y lovers. It includes pages upon pages of amazing month-by-month arty witchy curiosities and treasures!
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A mini excerpt for February's Apple Magic!

  • 'Apples are symbolic of fertility, joy and knowledge.
  • Offering an apple declares your love.
  • A large thin seed found in an apple means the arrival of an important letter.
  • One seed only brings unexpected fortune.
  • A falling apple from a tree landing on your right shoulder brings good luck, but bad luck if it lands on the left.
  • When apple harvesting in parts of England, a few apples are left on the tree to offer favours and friendship to fairies.
Apple Stars
An old tradition in Ireland was to cut an apple crossways, revealing a star with five points (a pentagram). The point that faces up represents the spirit, and the other points represent the elements - earth, air, fire and water.
See the star and it will bring happiness and health for the year to come!
If you like, you can continue to cut the apple crossways and bake low and slow in the oven to make dried apple slices.'

Madagascan vanilla cute jar candle & little cow skull deco, both Primark!

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07/02/2017

Hello young 2017!

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Happy February, magical people!
So I know that to a lot of you,  January feels like the Monday of the year. A little saving grace for those will be that we're out of Jan... buuuut...
I used to feel similarly sometimes, but I feel we can use things and sayings like this as an excuse. 
I know for me, anyway, this was the case. There's always a better time it seems, to start something, aim for something, work for something... and there's always something 'out of our control' determining how we live our lives right at this moment, and 'making' it so that we are not living them better.

This is a big fat lie, you are telling yourself. (Sorry).
Of course, there are always gonna be times we can't be bothered, or something bad has happened, that does take grievance. I'm not saying strength doesn't lie with those who do get effected by things.

Me, myself, as a HIGHLY sensitive person who gets ridiculously sensitive to certain things and for the rest is too chilled out, am speaking out of love and care. To lightly nudge and remind you that you have more control than you think, just as I need to remind myself this a lot of the time.
You are not as weak as you ever imagine sometimes, just look at you. You are made completely bizarrely of elements, all working perfectly to allow you to live through this life, holding you for your time here. That in itself is kinda magical to me.

Aaaaanyway, before I get overly deep for the momento, please if you are feeling similarly to that-- remember you have all the power within you to set out a change WHENEVER, not tomorrow. Even start as small as you need. Start loving yourself more today, the rest will follow. 

*OH. & most importantly. Mostly all of my life people have had an opinion on what I'm doing and how I'm doing that wrong. The people that you need to attract around you want to see you flourish, brightly and beautiful. DO NOT LET any of the others drag you down with them because they're not yet bold enough to be happy themselves.

Colourful looove also featuring my beautiful Alice in Wonderland Choker by Torc Vintage and lush sunset coloured mandala throw by Saint Boutique.
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PHOTOS// LORNA VAZRAGHI
MANDALA THROW// SAINT BOUTIQUE
ALICE IN WONDERLAND CHOKER// TORC VINTAGE
SUNSET COLOURED MESH TOP// BITCHING AND JUNKFOOD
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